I haven't blogged in awhile but today I just wanted to share some thoughts. I am near mid-thirties and I am getting ready to plan my first wedding. As exciting as all of this is, I want to remember to focus on my upcoming marriage and what it means to us.
I may be presumptuous but I think he felt giving me the ring was a big deal to me. He had spoke of doing it years ago so for my birthday weekend last month he finally fulfilled that promise. To be honest with you the ring is beautiful and to my liking but its not what excites me. I have already misplaced it a couple of times (albeit in the house) and I have come to realize it is a material object. It is special to me because it symbolizes something greater which is my bond with him.
So many women get excited about the ring, the celebrations and ceremony to follow, but at this point I am excited to be with someone that I know is willing to be my partner in life. I have seen several marriages fail including my parents, so to know that someone is willing to stay and fight for the relationship to work means a lot to me. To have a partner that will take the good with the bad and keep us rolling is essential.
I am not going to go into the good, the bad and the ugly of our relationship but I will say that it wasn't a fairy tale that got us here, but it feels so good to be here. Let's be honest I don't know how I will pull this lovely affair together. I don't know where the funds will be coming from. I don't know what the weather will be. I don't know if at that time all my loved ones will be in good health. Hell, I don't even know if we will really be together till death do us part, but I do know my chances are good :-)
-KD
Wednesday, July 22, 2015
Thursday, January 15, 2015
Together but Unequal
You ever been involved in an relationship just to find out you were living in two different realities?
You thought she was your friend and she thought you were a person she can use for food, transportation and conversation, you know all of the things she hasn't been able to squeeze from a man just yet....
You thought you were in a loving relationship with a soul mate, but he was with someone he was just with, ready at anytime to move on with the next if the opportunity presented itself....
Or how about you go though social media claiming and praising somebody, letting everyone know you are "In a Relationship" but you go to their page and you would not even know you exist? You ask them to change this and they have every excuse in the book not to because it is too much to change a status or post a picture, and they don't have to because it is their page *side eye*
There are so many more examples but the point of them all is that we all enter relationships with different hearts and motives. You will never know who is truly there for you until they consistently show themselves as such. This is a wake up call! No don't go into the world with closed hearts but give people the opportunity to prove themselves. Let relationships grow so you can see what you are dealing with. Even the best manipulator will show their true colors in due time. If there is ever a New Year resolution you should have every year it is to make yourself more AWARE. See where your life is headed and who you are letting in your drivers seat. Evaluate constantly if relationships are causing you to grow or if they are causing you constant pain.
You thought she was your friend and she thought you were a person she can use for food, transportation and conversation, you know all of the things she hasn't been able to squeeze from a man just yet....
You thought you were in a loving relationship with a soul mate, but he was with someone he was just with, ready at anytime to move on with the next if the opportunity presented itself....
Or how about you go though social media claiming and praising somebody, letting everyone know you are "In a Relationship" but you go to their page and you would not even know you exist? You ask them to change this and they have every excuse in the book not to because it is too much to change a status or post a picture, and they don't have to because it is their page *side eye*
There are so many more examples but the point of them all is that we all enter relationships with different hearts and motives. You will never know who is truly there for you until they consistently show themselves as such. This is a wake up call! No don't go into the world with closed hearts but give people the opportunity to prove themselves. Let relationships grow so you can see what you are dealing with. Even the best manipulator will show their true colors in due time. If there is ever a New Year resolution you should have every year it is to make yourself more AWARE. See where your life is headed and who you are letting in your drivers seat. Evaluate constantly if relationships are causing you to grow or if they are causing you constant pain.
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