Contest Alert!!

Lord knows I love a contest, and even better I love winning them, so please sign up for this fabulous trip to NYC Fashion Week and good luck to all!

http://bit.ly/1h0XvoP

It's RiRi Hearts Mac Time Again!

The RiRi Hearts Mac Holiday Collect is out this Thursday!! This time around I want the nail polish and I will try to cop the lipsticks, that is about it for me what about you guys? Check out the products below:

http://hamptonroads.com/2013/12/riri-hearts-mac-holiday-2013

Social Media Overload

It's official I need a break, I literally am at the same place I was a few years ago.  I've been done wrong and I am constantly looking for clues, checking on other folks pages looking at pictures wondering why are they considered worth hurting me for?  I stay up nights just stressed out because I can't get past PAIN.  Pain that I had no clue I was in for.  Pain that I thought someone who loved me would never inflict.  While I deal with this pain I have to realize that I can't let it consume me.  I have to realize that I am blessed and I need to count those blessings.  I have to figure out how to move forward. 

This is a replace society if a person is not blood they do not have to be in your lives and hell let's be real, sometimes family we toss as well.  But this does not work for me because my love is something that is not of this world.  It runs deep and I can never just toss someone that is meaningful in my life.  But I cannot let the devil and toxicity continuously enter into my life, so I am in the process of evaluating. Who is actually here for ME?  Did they just make an unfortunate mistake? Who is that person who never meant me any good in the first place?

Even though I am not quick to toss someone out of my life, I am no fool.  I am very good at keeping people at a distance, although I still love and care for them deeply I will not be involved in foolishness.  I have friends and family I care for but if they cannot or will not act right I cannot be around them.  So this is my issue, I have someone around I cannot figure out what category they fit in.  I can see it going either way.  I can imagine a life of happiness and an abundance of memories.  I can also picture misery and repeat performances of what I have dealt with this past year.  I am certainly standing in the need of prayer and me and these people who I may repair relationships with will need to pray together. I also need to take a mental break.  I will post when inspired but I think I need to look deep into my life and not worry about what I need to like on someone's page or look at their latest photos.  Love and Blessings to all of you stay encouraged and blessed on this journey called life. 

-Khocolate Diva

Tashera Simmons Opens Up About Her Mother Getting Pregnant By Her Grandfather

http://madamenoire.com/320816/tashera-simmons-opens-incest-abadonnned-mother/

This is so deep!  So much focus has been put on DMX and how messed up he is, but he attracted a woman from a very messy background as well.  How we are brought up affects us in so many ways.  I am going through my own journey right now trying to figure out why I end up in the relationships that I do, and what if anything from how I was raised influenced these choices in men I have made.  Feel free to share your thoughts!

Why Black People Aren't Getting Married

Interesting blog, but if you want my thoughts
1) There are too many options, way too many heauxs;
2) Relationships take real work that these men do not want any part of; and
3) Most of these young men and women do not have their mental, spiritual and financial selves together so its hard to move together as a unit when this is lacking...
http://normalisdead.tumblr.com/post/15520504327/6-reasons-black-people-arent-getting-married

Is Kayne Krazy?

I watched Kayne perform this week at the Oracle Arena in Oakland and I must say I left well......confused.  I will say Kayne made sure this show was visually STUNNING!  I mean it really was the most elaborate set and the costumes and masks....yes masks, he had on a mask for the majority of the show.  Jeweled and designed by Masion Martin Margiela but still masks....Kris Jenner was in attendance and was well received and other than a couple of technical glitches with sound the show was a spectacle.  He goes into a rant of course because that's what Yeezy or Yezzus or whatever does,  but he talks about his faith in God and then its like ok Kayne you have sense after all......but then came Jesus....but no not just Jesus "White Jesus".....really Kayne? I guess it was kind of funny and he went straight into "Jesus Walks" and let me tell you after White Jesus comes he takes off that masks and does the JAMS, I mean him doing "Flashing Lights" was enough for me!! But then it gets weird again, him along with his dancers (or background models?) bow to White Jesus, for a LONG TIME, at this point I was done with the show as it was already midnight.

I left wondering well quite a few things, I mean what was he trying to convey in this show full of religious imagery I mean I know the album is "Yeezus" he sings "I am a God" so I know it is within the theme of the album.  He is an artist and let me tell you he displays his artistry all in this show from this outfits to the stage to the songs.  With him though you always wonder if its something DEEPER, should I pray and repent for attending? Lord help us all!!

Heartbreak Hotel

Question of the Week:

Have you ever been cheated on?  Have you ever cheated on your spouse or significant other?  Why or why not and was was the consequences of your actions? Let's speak on it!

Any Questions?

For years I have wanted to talk to those lost in love, confused, hurt or just needing guidance on the next steps in life.  Not because I am any type of expert, but because I have a solid foundation in common sense and have been able to make some stable decisions in my life and have been able to assist those around me.  As much as I want to help others I also want to learn what other people go through and possibly learn from their experiences.  I hope to one day build a forum one day to be able to do this as often as I please and I hope that others join me in this journey of discussion and seeking guidance in our everyday experiences and learning to find the best paths to navigate this road called life.