MEN WAKE UP!!

I am begging all of you dysfunctional, emotionally scarred men of color to GET HELP!!  I am tried of seeing these stories of beautiful young families breaking up because a man does not know how to control his emotions.  They scare their women and children to the point where they need to take out restraining orders? They are limited in their access to their children, who they love and who love them dearly. It is just a total breakdown of the family structure.  I ask who is going to be that man that speaks to these young men and try to let them know it is OK to seek help.  This is deeper than we think and cannot be ignored.  

It has been reported that Eva Marcille was granted full custody after putting a restraining order on her fiance Kevin McCall after he allegedly flew into a rampage breaking down doors and trying to pry their baby girl out of Eva's arms.

Tiffney Cambridge recently had her physical run in with The Game, which led to him complaining of not being able to see his kids and a restraining order being filed against him. 

 And of course we have the much publicized Columbus Short who just has seem to have completely lost his mind along with his job on the hit ABC TV show Scandal. He no longer has access to his own home after allegedly threatening his wife's life and he later broke in and ransacked their home.

But how do men advance when they have fools like DL Hughley, who is older and should KNOW BETTER speaking on Short's domestic situation?  He said: 

“The star of one of the hottest dramas in the country, chokes the f*ck out of his wife? That doesn’t ever happen. I don’t think it happened first off. Like the time Warren Sapp was getting ready to do the Super Bowl and some broad said that he raped her. There are just as many examples of women lying on men in the middle of divorce proceedings to get what they want, as there are men who actually do anything. My point is if he did what she’s alleging he did, she could still get all that she’s going to have and not bring it up now, when it damages his market value that she’s going to be impacted by. If he loses that job nobody’s living in Calabasas anymore.”  

Hughley goes on to say: “I guarantee you, three years from now she’s going to be thinking, “Damn, I should have shut the f*ck up. Cuz women always running out the mouth when they shouldn’t.”  - See more at: http://madamenoire.com/424720/d-l-hughley-calls-columbus-shorts-wife-a-thirsty-btch-who-should-just-shut-the-fck-up/#sthash.sV7RWKWF.dpuf

I have seen men's anger in my own personal life, and I get it men are fragile creatures more than they want to admit, so why don't they do what they need to do and find the support amongst each other that they need and find a way to direct this aggression into positive forms before they lose everything that have worked for and everyone they love?

-KD

Can't Get It Right

Man if I could just correct the course of my life right now with any action what would you suggest?  I have been ill, I have been stressing over pretty much everything but mainly finances, homework and family life.  I have been struggling to find my identity in the Bay Area, will this really be my life for the long term?  I miss my LIFE in Los Angeles, but I also remember days just feeling like I was lost in the sauce there as well.  

Overall I am blessed, I truly have no real complaints in life, but I can say that I have been frustrated lately.  I want to just correct the course find a nice rhythm, go through each day with no conflicts.  I want to take everything on a step by step basis and just make things better as I go along.  This journey was never said to be easy but it can be worth it.  I will definitely suffer now, pay for my past mistakes so I can get to a position where I CAN LIVE!! So all that said I apologize for not posting more.  

There has truly been plenty going on in the media lately and I still cannot seem to wrap my head around some of it.  Did Mimi and Nikko of Love and Hip Hop really come out with a sex tape?  Did I really watch it and wonder WTF were they trying to show or prove?  Did Porsha really drag Kenya?  Does Kenya really have an African prince?  Is Russell Wilson really getting divorced? Is Colin Kapernick still accused of doing something to that girl or nah?  Just too much!! 

Apparently Lupita Nyong'o is the most beautiful woman in the world and she has people of color really happy about this.  I am happy for her but I think Nia Long, Sanaa Lathan, Jill Scott, hell even Beyonce have been beautiful way before we heard of Lupita.  Why hasn't a African-American woman been given such an honor previously?  I mean the obvious would be Halle Berry who has been on People's list but never THE most beautiful.  But I guess someone has to kick in the door and who better than Lupita who can dress her ass off and just overall looks flawless on any red carpet.

I have been busy and really just trying to seek a direction for the blog.  What would you like to see stories featured on?  I appreciate any and all feedback.

XOXO

KD

Mother of Mathew Knowles’ Love Child Heading To Homeless Shelter

 Read more: Necole Bitchie.com: Mother of Matthew Knowles' Love Child Heading to Homeless Shelter

So I read this today and I am SHOCKED I can't even believe the fuckery I am reading.  This woman is calling out the CHILD of her baby's father, the man who was MARRIED to this child's mother, and wants to know how she can stand seeing her baby brother homeless!!! BIIIITTTCHHH!!!!  Are you serious!???

 Beyonce nor Solange owe you nothing!!!! She should never even speak their names!! You disrespected their mother and their family in the WORST way. Their father Matthew Knowles is the ONLY person you should be calling out for any type of financial help or financial support.  And any woman who receives over $2K a month in support and cannot keep a roof over her head is a pathetic woman.  You want to know how much support I get to keep a roof over my head? You want to know how many mouths I feed? CHILD PLEASE!!! Some people just need to keep their legs closed or just get sterilized because common sense is NOT common.  I just had to write this today because I just really thought about if this was my father and his side piece had the nerve to EVER call me out about doing anything for any child they conceived with my father!! Beyonce and Solange are STRONG women.  Tina Knowles is a saint because I would have tore into that broad even mentioning my babies name. Even Matthew's pathetic ass should have tore into her by now. I am not claiming BeyHive or any of that, has nothing to do with being a fan, its just I am a hater of whores. These broads have no morals!! But if you don't know Khocolate Diva is going to tell you today, LEAVE THESE MARRIED MEN ALONE, IF THEY WANTED YOU THEY WILL MARRY YOU, YOU WILL GET KNOCKED UP AND THEY WON'T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT YOU AND YOUR BABY, AND YOU CAN CALL THEM WRONG ALL DAMN DAY BUT GUESS WHAT YOU SET YOURSELF UP FOR THE LIFE OF FUCKERY SO DEAL WITH IT YOU NASTY BITCH.

XOXO
KD

Conscious Uncoupling

Of course by now you have heard the news, Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow have ended their marriage, but it was the strange way that Gwyneth described the divorce as "Conscious Uncoupling" that seemed to cause much debate about how pretentious she is. But if you read the article below her statement written by Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami, Gwyneth Paltrow announces divorce on Goop, you will see where she learned about this different way to view a divorce.  

After reading Dr. Sadeghi and Dr. Sami's article the following statement stuck out to me:

The idea of being married to one person for life is too much pressure for anyone. In fact, it would be interesting to see how much easier couples might commit to each other by thinking of their relationship in terms of daily renewal instead of a lifetime investment. This is probably the reason why so many people say their long-term relationships changed overnight, once they got married. The people didn’t change, but the expectation did.

This to me is EVERYTHING!! We are so programmed to think that marriage is for life, it is almost like a life sentence and if you can't complete it then you fail.  I have only been in my relationship a little under two years but once I decided he was the person I wanted to be my future husband I always thought in the sense of "years from now".   I will be working towards getting money sacrificing time so we can accomplish goals "years from now", or I will not care about if he is happy today because I take for granted that he said he will be around, he isn't going anywhere.  I can say that I see where I have made mistakes, where we have made mistakes. We have not been grateful for everyday, waking up every morning thinking how can I show my love today. You can easily get caught up in trying to build a lifetime, but if you let the days go by showing that love and appreciation everyday, the lifetime of marriage will probably be automatic.  If you take the time to see that life is moment to moment, not planned for the rest of your life, why should marriage be even different? 

So say what you want about Gwyneth but I appreciate her openness at a time in her life when she probably could have been very closed off.  I appreciate her sharing the lessons she has learned and in the process she could have saved many marriages.

Peace and Blessings,

KD

Victoria Rowell Shares The Harsh Truth Behind Soap Operas and People of Color

Do you love a good soap?  How many of us grew up having no choice but to watch daytime soap operas because our mother's and grandmothers ruled the TV during the time there were on.  My grandfather was the ultimate TV hog, but in the afternoons he knew who had the remote control.  My mother, whenever we were at home from school on a weekday was into All My Children, General Hospital, Young and the Restless and One Life to Live. Yes all my life I knew what was going on with Erica Kane but today longtime YTR star Victoria Rowell spilled some serious tea about what goes on behind the scenes of our favorite daytime shows.

Now let me tell you racism is Hollywood is REAL, I have dealt with it a bit myself working in the Television and Music industries.  She has not worked on YTR since 2007, and honestly I don't even know how they keep the show interesting without her?  African-Americans give so much support to these shows and the majority of us do not have a clue how much we are being ignored.  I applaud Victoria Rowell for shedding some light on this.

Living Naturally - Oil Pulling Method

From HeyFranHey's YouTube Channel, learn about the Oil Pulling Method. I will be trying this soon and will be sharing with you my results, feel free to do the same. 

 Are you suffering from asthma or allergies that just won't let up? Looking for a healthier alternative to help combat migraines/headaches? Or maybe you're having constant oral health issues like cavities, bad breath or gum infections? Here is an all-natural remedy to help you with all of the above...and then some! The Oil Pulling Method!

Kim Kardashian and Kayne West's Vouge Cover

It is here and it is FAB!! Now who said Anna Wintour is mad? Shot by famed photographer Annie Leibovitz, I know this is a dream come true for Kim. People will debate if she deserves this and I do not see why, this woman has lived fashion for many years and is a media icon.  I don't understand all the drama but in any case this is a beautiful cover.  Congrats Kim & Kayne!! See video footage of the shoot and amazing gif's here: Kim and Kayne during Vogue Shoot with North West