MEN WAKE UP!!

I am begging all of you dysfunctional, emotionally scarred men of color to GET HELP!!  I am tried of seeing these stories of beautiful young families breaking up because a man does not know how to control his emotions.  They scare their women and children to the point where they need to take out restraining orders? They are limited in their access to their children, who they love and who love them dearly. It is just a total breakdown of the family structure.  I ask who is going to be that man that speaks to these young men and try to let them know it is OK to seek help.  This is deeper than we think and cannot be ignored.  

It has been reported that Eva Marcille was granted full custody after putting a restraining order on her fiance Kevin McCall after he allegedly flew into a rampage breaking down doors and trying to pry their baby girl out of Eva's arms.

Tiffney Cambridge recently had her physical run in with The Game, which led to him complaining of not being able to see his kids and a restraining order being filed against him. 

 And of course we have the much publicized Columbus Short who just has seem to have completely lost his mind along with his job on the hit ABC TV show Scandal. He no longer has access to his own home after allegedly threatening his wife's life and he later broke in and ransacked their home.

But how do men advance when they have fools like DL Hughley, who is older and should KNOW BETTER speaking on Short's domestic situation?  He said: 

“The star of one of the hottest dramas in the country, chokes the f*ck out of his wife? That doesn’t ever happen. I don’t think it happened first off. Like the time Warren Sapp was getting ready to do the Super Bowl and some broad said that he raped her. There are just as many examples of women lying on men in the middle of divorce proceedings to get what they want, as there are men who actually do anything. My point is if he did what she’s alleging he did, she could still get all that she’s going to have and not bring it up now, when it damages his market value that she’s going to be impacted by. If he loses that job nobody’s living in Calabasas anymore.”  

Hughley goes on to say: “I guarantee you, three years from now she’s going to be thinking, “Damn, I should have shut the f*ck up. Cuz women always running out the mouth when they shouldn’t.”  - See more at: http://madamenoire.com/424720/d-l-hughley-calls-columbus-shorts-wife-a-thirsty-btch-who-should-just-shut-the-fck-up/#sthash.sV7RWKWF.dpuf

I have seen men's anger in my own personal life, and I get it men are fragile creatures more than they want to admit, so why don't they do what they need to do and find the support amongst each other that they need and find a way to direct this aggression into positive forms before they lose everything that have worked for and everyone they love?

-KD

Can't Get It Right

Man if I could just correct the course of my life right now with any action what would you suggest?  I have been ill, I have been stressing over pretty much everything but mainly finances, homework and family life.  I have been struggling to find my identity in the Bay Area, will this really be my life for the long term?  I miss my LIFE in Los Angeles, but I also remember days just feeling like I was lost in the sauce there as well.  

Overall I am blessed, I truly have no real complaints in life, but I can say that I have been frustrated lately.  I want to just correct the course find a nice rhythm, go through each day with no conflicts.  I want to take everything on a step by step basis and just make things better as I go along.  This journey was never said to be easy but it can be worth it.  I will definitely suffer now, pay for my past mistakes so I can get to a position where I CAN LIVE!! So all that said I apologize for not posting more.  

There has truly been plenty going on in the media lately and I still cannot seem to wrap my head around some of it.  Did Mimi and Nikko of Love and Hip Hop really come out with a sex tape?  Did I really watch it and wonder WTF were they trying to show or prove?  Did Porsha really drag Kenya?  Does Kenya really have an African prince?  Is Russell Wilson really getting divorced? Is Colin Kapernick still accused of doing something to that girl or nah?  Just too much!! 

Apparently Lupita Nyong'o is the most beautiful woman in the world and she has people of color really happy about this.  I am happy for her but I think Nia Long, Sanaa Lathan, Jill Scott, hell even Beyonce have been beautiful way before we heard of Lupita.  Why hasn't a African-American woman been given such an honor previously?  I mean the obvious would be Halle Berry who has been on People's list but never THE most beautiful.  But I guess someone has to kick in the door and who better than Lupita who can dress her ass off and just overall looks flawless on any red carpet.

I have been busy and really just trying to seek a direction for the blog.  What would you like to see stories featured on?  I appreciate any and all feedback.

XOXO

KD

Mother of Mathew Knowles’ Love Child Heading To Homeless Shelter

 Read more: Necole Bitchie.com: Mother of Matthew Knowles' Love Child Heading to Homeless Shelter

So I read this today and I am SHOCKED I can't even believe the fuckery I am reading.  This woman is calling out the CHILD of her baby's father, the man who was MARRIED to this child's mother, and wants to know how she can stand seeing her baby brother homeless!!! BIIIITTTCHHH!!!!  Are you serious!???

 Beyonce nor Solange owe you nothing!!!! She should never even speak their names!! You disrespected their mother and their family in the WORST way. Their father Matthew Knowles is the ONLY person you should be calling out for any type of financial help or financial support.  And any woman who receives over $2K a month in support and cannot keep a roof over her head is a pathetic woman.  You want to know how much support I get to keep a roof over my head? You want to know how many mouths I feed? CHILD PLEASE!!! Some people just need to keep their legs closed or just get sterilized because common sense is NOT common.  I just had to write this today because I just really thought about if this was my father and his side piece had the nerve to EVER call me out about doing anything for any child they conceived with my father!! Beyonce and Solange are STRONG women.  Tina Knowles is a saint because I would have tore into that broad even mentioning my babies name. Even Matthew's pathetic ass should have tore into her by now. I am not claiming BeyHive or any of that, has nothing to do with being a fan, its just I am a hater of whores. These broads have no morals!! But if you don't know Khocolate Diva is going to tell you today, LEAVE THESE MARRIED MEN ALONE, IF THEY WANTED YOU THEY WILL MARRY YOU, YOU WILL GET KNOCKED UP AND THEY WON'T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT YOU AND YOUR BABY, AND YOU CAN CALL THEM WRONG ALL DAMN DAY BUT GUESS WHAT YOU SET YOURSELF UP FOR THE LIFE OF FUCKERY SO DEAL WITH IT YOU NASTY BITCH.

XOXO
KD